First of all, I want to say that sexual orientation does not matter to me. People can be whoever they are with whomever they choose. My sexuality is MY business and yours is YOURS. Don't flaunt it in my face, no matter how you swing.... keep it in the bedroom and we will get along just fine.
EVERYONE in the military should follow don't ask - don't tell. It's NOT relevant to job performance, and what a soldier does in private is hisher business and no one elses.
Having said that, I see letting gays serve openly NOT as a morale problem, NOT a command problem but a legal problem...... and I use 'legal' in the sense that.... the chain of command will have to walk on eggshells to avoid discrimination suits, which WILL be detrimental to everything military. The first time an openly gay man slips into his little black dress and fishnet stockings and hoop earrings and heads to the base NCO/OC and gets the living shit beat out of him along the way..... let the lawyers gather like vultures, because there WILL be lawsuit after lawsuit... EERs/OERs that aren't perfect will said to be such because the military member is gay. And that's only two examples. It's a Pandora's Box that needs to remain closed.
Male or female - keep your junk to yourself.... I welcome any patriot who wants to serve this country and I will be the first to thank him/her for that service.... but sex belongs in the bedroom, NOT on the PT field or on the firing line. Just saying...